My Wife Had an Affair – Do I Have to Pay Her Spousal Support?

Your feelings around your spouse’s infidelity are natural, understandable, and important. Feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, shock, rage, and so on are to be expected when one’s partner has been unfaithful.  Your feelings around the affair, whatever they might be, are...

How to Stop Fighting in Front of Your Kids

(Beyond Buttoning Your Lips!) Hold a “Commitment Ceremony” Before you can implement any of the following ideas, you need to have a commitment from your ex (or soon to be ex) that you will both do everything possible to stop fighting in front of the kids. Write it down...

5 Reasons to Stay Out of Court

As a retired Superior Court Family Law Commissioner, I firmly believe that if you can find a way to stay out of court, do so for the following reasons: Time Constraints – The Family Court system is underfunded and understaffed.  Even a relatively simple case can...

How to Divorce in the Coronavirus Environment – Video Conferencing!

What with all the anxiety and tension related to the Coronavirus and its upheaval in our lives, the Collaborative Process can be the respite couples want when deciding to divorce in this climate.  Many courts have shut down and are not able to help in this time of...