My Wife Had an Affair – Do I Have to Pay Her Spousal Support?

Sep 1, 2020

Your feelings around your spouse’s infidelity are natural, understandable, and important. Feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, shock, rage, and so on are to be expected when one’s partner has been unfaithful.  Your feelings around the affair, whatever they might be, are...

How to Stop Fighting in Front of Your Kids

Aug 2, 2020

(Beyond Buttoning Your Lips!) Hold a “Commitment Ceremony” Before you can implement any of the following ideas, you need to have a commitment from your ex (or soon to be ex) that you will both do everything possible to stop fighting in front of the kids. Write it down...

5 Reasons to Stay Out of Court

May 18, 2020

As a retired Superior Court Family Law Commissioner, I firmly believe that if you can find a way to stay out of court, do so for the following reasons: Time Constraints – The Family Court system is underfunded and understaffed.  Even a relatively simple case can...

About Collaborative Practice Golden Gate

Feb 1, 2020

About Collaborative Practice Golden Gate Collaborative Practice Golden Gate is a group of Bay Area professionals committed to resolving conflicts without court battles or power struggles. We are a multi-disciplinary group of licensed professionals trained in...

“Mom and Dad, Thank You for How You Did Your Divorce.”

Jan 21, 2020

My adult son said this to me thirty years after his father and I were divorced.  He went on to say, “I have strengths now that I don’t think I would have except for the way you and Dad did your divorce.”    I was astonished when my son said this to me.  Jim is...