Why Choose the Collaborative Divorce Process

As you begin to decide how you wish your divorce process to be, the Collaborative Divorce process could be right for you if:

  • You want a civilized, respectful resolution of the issues.
  • You want to keep open the possibility of a respectful relationship (perhaps even the possibility of a friendship) with your partner after the divorce.
  • You and your partner will be co-parenting children together after the divorce and you want the best co-parenting relationship possible.
  • You want to protect your children from the harm associated with conflict in divorce between parents.
  • You and your partner have a circle of friends or extended family in common that you both want to remain connected to.
  • You have ethical or spiritual beliefs that place high value on taking personal responsibility for handling conflicts with integrity.
  • You value your privacy in your personal affairs and you do not want details of your divorce to be available in the public Court record.
  • You believe that you and your partner will be able to make the best decisions for your family.  You do not want to hand over decision-making about your future financial position and/or your children’s lives to a stranger, such as a Judge.
  • You want to find a creative and individual solution to your problem.
  • You understand that resolving your dispute with integrity involves not only achieving your own goals but finding a way to respect the reasonable goals of the other person.
  • You wish to fix a problem rather than apportion blame, and you want to work creatively toward solving the problem rather than exacting revenge.
  • You and your partner are a same-sex couple looking for a process that is sensitive to your unique needs and the challenges facing LGBTQ+ families.